ABSTINENCE

Everyone knows we live in a hyper-sexualized society where sex is constantly available—online if not in person—but the idea of chastity has become even more complicated by a shifting definition of what sex is.

“Iʼve heard people say oral sex is sex, but it doesnʼt breach virginity,” Paris says. “Even the terms seem to be shifting. And thatʼs not just people trying to get away with sin. I think itʼs [the result of] honest questioning: What does my sexuality mean? What exactly is sex? And as a Christian, what is holiness? Where is that line?”

But when the focus is on “the line,” it becomes easy to lose sight of what it means to be abstinent, to be chaste, to “wait.” Abstinence shouldnʼt be about whatʼs OK to do or how far itʼs possible to go without sinning, but rather it should be about honoring God in all things.

Even though most Christians believe abstinence is the right thing, something needs to change for believers to truly live out their faith and pursue holiness in every area of life—including oneʼs sexuality.

Got this from an article online called "the Secret Sexual Revolution" at relevantmagazine.com. I just really agree with the whole concept of treading the line as opposed to, "Ok God, I want PURITY, HOLINESS, DIGNITY, FREEDOM, so just how FAR can I run away from "the line"? Ya know?? It's not about breaking rules, it's about real FREEDOM! Do you really just want to give your body away to the first person who makes you feel good? What the heck?? Is your body not worth more? Is it not made for more? Isn't SEX supposed to be something so pure, and sacred, and beautiful, and mysterious?  WHAT THE HELL have we made of it?????  I want nothing to do with contributing to the depravity of sexuality in this culture, how about you? I'd rather hold out for something that's actually worth it.